tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post2251638082465459899..comments2023-11-10T15:40:27.675-08:00Comments on Shumen and Shuwomen: Midlife CrisisAndreahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06798681298828623888noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-87655922973165146942008-08-02T22:49:00.000-07:002008-08-02T22:49:00.000-07:00Oh Andrea- I'm not one for advice because I'm not ...Oh Andrea- I'm not one for advice because I'm not done. I'd be happy with 4 more. Which would put me inching 40 by then- yikes! You have the cutest kids and one more would just be so cute too! I think 30 is really young still. I know someone who just told everyone they are done and then had to retract because after 4 yrs. on the pill is pregnant. Heavenly Father has a plan and even if you try to prevent it- it may happen anyway unless extreme measures are taken- sorry TY. :) But then again this is coming from someone who has great pregnancies so don't listen to me. Maybe as time goes by it just gets easier to accept it rather than really knowing for sure. Good luck!Priceless Heritagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11818638752205708973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-73489326445878887202008-08-01T10:33:00.000-07:002008-08-01T10:33:00.000-07:00Turning 29 made me panic a little too, because alt...Turning 29 made me panic a little too, because although I don't really want another baby NOW, or even in nine months, it would be nice to be done by 30. But it's really not an option for us right now, with the husband in school (again) and me working at a great job that I love & barely working out daycare for the 3 I already have. We just took apart our crib & gave away almost all of our baby clothes and equipment too. & here's another thing - There are no diapers in my house right now! We're just taking it one year or month or day at a time & although we feel like we're done & complete now, maybe our circumstances and our feelings will change in the future. I kinda hope we're done though, because although pregnancy is easy for me, the newborn stage is not & I am loving being the mom of bigger & bigger girls. I get a little giddy thinking that we're moving into the next stage of parenting. So, no actual advice, just, I can relate!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03445503949089734883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-51831868176553210242008-07-31T20:39:00.000-07:002008-07-31T20:39:00.000-07:00wow! I am not really sure how to respond...I have ...wow! I am not really sure how to respond...I have those same exact feelings, I have wondered that many times although I still want one more baby before I decide if we are going to just have three or maybe one more, because I like you, get extrememly sick. I have been hospitalized with IV's and I throw up 300+ times with each one,and have a liver disease-only when I am pregnant, that makes me itch all over, so I know how you feel, but like all your other blogging friends have said, pray and make a decision based on your feelings... I am not looking forward to that decision! Luckily I have a few more years! good luck!Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04413764822230506935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-25165894960673457092008-07-31T12:30:00.000-07:002008-07-31T12:30:00.000-07:00Sadly, I have a can of Aqua Net for just such occa...Sadly, I have a can of Aqua Net for just such occasions (that is when you know it happens too often!). But it didn't work this time. I also tried the Magic Eraser and that did nothing too. I seriously was terrified I would have to live with a huge black marker design to display my bad parenting for all to see!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17120763720983340131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-45897679602240876122008-07-30T20:58:00.000-07:002008-07-30T20:58:00.000-07:00Ah, with my husband's vasectomy fresh on my mind, ...Ah, with my husband's vasectomy fresh on my mind, I feel I can bring a different perspective to this debate (not that choosing whether to bring a child into this world is a debate, but for arguments sake...). I didn't just know. For one, my body told me. I, like you, spent a good portion of my pregnancies hooked up to an IV, vomiting into my 3rd trimester (big, fat What To Expect liars!!!!). Then came the complications: too much amniotic fluid, broken ribs, seizures in the womb, early labor at 23 weeks, etc., etc. And to top it off, my body does not go into labor no matter what. 15 hours of full blown Pitocin and 7 attempts to break my water and I was still dilated to a 0!! 2 c-sections later I just don't know if my body can handle being pregnant again. Plus, I have moved past the loving everything newborn phase. I actually feel liberated thinking in perhaps a few months there will be no more diapers in our house. NONE! Plus we are taking down the crib tomorrow because Claire started sleeping in her "big girl" bed and I am already planning a slew of vacations that could not have been attempted with babies. I can't say you will just know, because I don't believe that. I just had to weigh the pros and cons and then, like it has been mentioned above, make a decision and wait for that decision to be backed my gut feeling. In our case, I have no regrets. Oh and no watching Saturday's Warriors while attempting to make this decision. Way to persuasive. I think too many Emily's have been brought in to this would after the guilt of that show has taken over!!!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17120763720983340131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-25375288178724902832008-07-30T19:00:00.000-07:002008-07-30T19:00:00.000-07:00Well, if it were up to me I would say "Yes! You sh...Well, if it were up to me I would say "Yes! You should have one more!" But that's purely selfish because I don't want to be the last one in the family having kids, making our future child/children without cousins their age. I don't envy your decision. It's one I'm not looking forward to. I think I agree with Amy. Just make a decision and see how you feel. Good luck!Mariannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08637065699902525493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-13754453228201140242008-07-30T15:49:00.000-07:002008-07-30T15:49:00.000-07:00I am very interested in this topic as I, too am ap...I am very interested in this topic as I, too am approaching 30 (only about a week left!) I have leaned this way and that, but still haven't come to a decision. I can hardly grasp the concept of moving on from the child-bearing stage knowing my family is complete the way it is (it's so exciting to me), but at the same time, I get so sad when I think I won't ever get to experience all the sweetness of a new baby again (like Sharlee said). <BR/><BR/>Sometimes I'm afraid to pray about it for fear the answer will be "you're not done". and I just don't know if I can handle another pregnancy (this last one was so hard with complications and my most difficult birth). I fear I'm getting older and it might only get harder from here.<BR/><BR/>BUT I'm not pulling my hair out as a mother, and it really would be nice for poor Ian to have a brother...<BR/><BR/>Whenever you find the hat that holds the numbers to tell us how many kids to have, you just pass it my way.Rindeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06484592341447995551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-90416567293828760582008-07-30T15:35:00.000-07:002008-07-30T15:35:00.000-07:00Hey. I guess you just have to go with your feelin...Hey. I guess you just have to go with your feelings... make a decision and see how you feel... confused and frustrated or content and at peace. Good luck. I think about it all the time too. Im not at that phase yet, but I know I will be in a few years. Growing up and making decisions is hard huh!Jasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17724473118149240992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8087509985980178741.post-76192384255625957852008-07-30T15:17:00.000-07:002008-07-30T15:17:00.000-07:00It's funny that you posted about this subject. I'...It's funny that you posted about this subject. I've been saying (and knowing) that we're done since Jonah was born and feeling quite satisfied with that decision. Last night as I was lying in bed, nursing a migraine and the nausea that accompanied it, I had flashbacks of the months I spent in bed wishing someone would just put me out of my misery. And then out of nowhere I also had sweet memories of the feeling of a baby growing inside me and how glorious it was to hold a baby and love a sweet, round, soft little bundle of heaven. It made me cry to think that I may never experience that again and to think that our family is complete as it is. Who knows. You just pray and pray I guess. Do what feels right. Time may change those feelings and that's o.k.Sharleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13966304298477030346noreply@blogger.com